Remembering Our Home
Brothers and Sisters
Former Teachers,
Houseparents
and
Officers of the Home
One of the many changes
on this site will be how
we post Memorials of
our Home Brothers and
Sisters...
Soon I will be posting
photo slideshows by year
of our Homies who
have passed.
They may have left us,
but we will never
forget them in spirit.....
----Susie Jackson-Yagher~71
I am not Gone
~by Injete Chesoni
I am not gone
I remain here beside you
Just in a different form.
Look for me in your heart
And there you will find me
in our love which forever lives on...
In those moments when you feel alone
Look for me in your thoughts
And there you will find me
in sweet memories that burn strong...
Every time a tear
Forms in your beautiful eyes
Look up to the heavens
And there you will see me
Smiling down from God's glorious skies...
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ISSCH Alumni Association Memorials
Remembering our loved ones....
When you see this symbol,
it's recognizing our Alumni
Members who have passed....
COMING SOON
Complete "Memorial Listing" compiled since 2000 by Susie Jackson-Yagher. This listing will include alumnus, former teachers, former employees and officers of the Home. It will list the Class, Name, DOD and Cause (if known). This listing IS BEING UPDATED and should be posted soon.
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The saddest part of growing old is losing your friends.....
~ anonymous
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Coping with the loss
of a loved one...
They say Grief is the loneliest place on earth. It's personal for each one of us. Through observing family and friends, it is obvious that each one of us deals with grief in our own way. Some people bottle up their feelings and take on an "out of sight, out of mind" approach. Others choose to tackle their grief upfront and talk about all of the memories, watch home movies, and sort through old pictures and scrapbooks. There really is no right way of dealing with grief, but one thing for certain, grief has to be dealt with in time. The grieving process usually consists of the following stages:
Denial & Shock: At first, it may be difficult for you to accept your own dying or the death of a loved one. As a result you will deny the reality of death. This denial will gradually diminish as you begin to express and share your feelings about death and dying with family and friends.
Anger: During this stage the most common question asked is "why me?" You are angry at what you perceive to be the unfairness of death and you may project and displace your anger at others.
Bargaining: Many people try to bargain with some sort of deity. They will try to bargain and offer to give up an enjoyable part of their life in exchange for the return of health or the lost person.
Guilt: You may find yourself feeling guilty for things you did or didn't do prior to the loss. Forgive yourself...
Depression: You may at first experience a sense of great loss. Mood fluctuations and feelings of isolation and withdrawal may follow.
Loneliness: As you go through changes in your social life because of the loss, you may feel lonely and afraid. The more you are able to reach out to others and make new friends, the more this feeling lessens.
Acceptance: Acceptance does not mean happiness. Instead you accept and deal with the reality of the situation.
Hope: Eventually you will reach a point where remembering will be less painful and you can begin to look ahead to the future and more good times.
Coping and helping: As a friend, you can be supportive, encouraging and reassuring. Let your friend talk it out. Be a good listener. Talk openly and honest. Avoid using the phrase, "I know just how you feel." You DON'T know how they are feeling. For yourself, maintain hope. If your religious convictions are important to you, talk to a clergy. Join a support group---and above all, take care of you. Be patient, it takes time to rebound....
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Photo by Amy (Stevens) Lippman~90
Photo by Amy (Stevens) Lippman~90
My Best Friend
I sit around and wonder,
and watch the days go by.
I look at all the pictures,
and ask, why did you have to die?
You've always been there for me,
because you were my best friend,
and I was always there for you
until the very end.
But now it's time to let you go,
your spirit now is free.
Even though you won't really be gone,
because you'll live inside of me.
So when we have to leave you
at your resting place,
I will always remember
your smiling, beautiful face.
This is hardly a goodbye,
so I won't weep anymore,
because now you're in a better place
than you ever were before.
Even though that I will miss you,
and I'll think about you everyday,
You'll always be my best friend,
and that's all I have to say.....
~unknown
Photo: Lifelong best friends Jim Ditton and Jerry (rt).
